Perhaps the single life lesson, that has taken the longest for me to learn, is the necessity of being a bitch...occasionally.
Being a proponent of "do unto others as you would have them do unto you", it had never previously occured to me that being a bitch could EVERRR, be appropriate behaviour. In fact, it has always been of utmost importance to me to be kind, generous and giving - as that is exactly how I want to be treated. And yet I can see now that I was naive and that I didn't fully understand the law of reciprocity. By treating others well, I expected to be treated well in return, and granted, when that didn't happen, I would take the high road and let it go. I didn't like it, but I accepted it.
However, it occured to me very recently that this "unconditional" love so to speak, is not always appropriate nor does it serve humanity, because there are some people who are cronically offensive, negative and even hateful. Being kind to these monsters actually feeds their negative energy.
After watching Sandra Bullock in The Proposal, I became facinated and even obsessed, with her character's unwavering nastiness....I actually admired this! Of course her character went to the extreme and it was so absurd that it became tears-in-my-eyes hilarious - as it was meant to be! And yet it caused me to question whether perhaps I shouldn't occassionally assume a smidgent of her character's disposition of verbally offensive and cold behaviour, as a panacea for dealing with unpleasant creatures. I decided that indeed during certain isolated instances, when I find myself faced with a repugnant individual who has no moral compass guiding him/her to appropriately interact with human beings: that it would be appropriate and dignified to respond with a retaliatory repertoire of every linguistic munition in my coffer.
The more I pondered this, the more I felt justifiably that, a synonymous response to such an individual was not only warranted, but humane even, given that one learns most effectively, from personal experience.
Hence, I set out the following Monday morning, with the clear intention of unleashing my new heroine-inspired behaviour, upon all disagreeable tyrants that crossed my path that week.
Rather quickly, I was given two opportunities to act out my desired role, and the responses confirmed my theory. One sour, unevolved individual who ooozed contempt and whom everyone (myself included) dreaded interacting with, was reduced to stuttering and stammering when confronted with my newfound demeaner. Another equally unpleasant character was so taken aback with my unwavering acerbic retorts, that he too was left speechless and retreated from the demands, that he was attempting to enforce.
I confirmed that day, that to truly be impervious from the toxic negative energy that some so naturally emit, I would need to adopt some of the very characteristics that I deplored. This didn't initially sit well with me until I viewed it from a more strategic global perspective. I understood then that to serve and protect the kind and the generous, from the harsh malignant verbal discharge of hostile individuals with whom we share this planet, that I would occassionally be required to behave in a manner best described as a total bitch - super-hero style.
Hence my conclusion; sometimes being a bitch is the kindest thing you can do.
......anybody with me on this one?
